Some brides get it into their heads that wedding gifts are required/expected, completing negating the very definition of the word.
One British couple went so far as to call a guest out for only gifting them with a 100-pound check.
The guest, who said she was a former co-worker of the bride, was so upset by the request that she sought out advice from total strangers.
According to the Guardian, the woman posted her grievance to Mumsnet Forum, hoping that she wasn't going insane by thinking the couple's note was a bit rude.
"We were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day," the newlyweds wrote to their guest.
"In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received."
The guest was, understandably, horrified and opened up to the forum.
"I recently attended an ex-colleague's wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can't help feeling it shouldn't)
"For someone who's not easily shocked I confess I'm utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I'll mention that "your own position" probably refers to a recent inheritance I've had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)
"Please, anyone, what do I do now? I've never come across anything like this before and still can't quite believe they've done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??
One user wrote suggested the guest "email back but BCC any mutual friends in so they are able to see the email for themselves. That is entitled and grabby. It's a gift not an obligation and many people wouldn't have given so much to an ex-colleague."
Another wrote: "Whatever the circumstance that is very rude. As to whether or not the gift was appropriate: did you bowl up with a partner and six children and proceed to demolish the buffet and free bar? No? Then £100 is a generous gift to an ex-colleague."
"It's a gift not an obligation and many people wouldn't have given so much to an ex colleague," one other chimed in.
The guest was grateful for the suggestions, and wrote back to the group herself.
"It's unlikely I'll bump into the B&G much in future as I'm retired now, which is probably just as well," she explained.
"However I've just replied to her email with one sentence: 'I assume this was some sort of mistake?'"
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